iWonder About Apple

 

So everyone is (predictably) going apeshit over the iPad. So far, I’ve got one complaint– what the fuck is up with the name?

Look, I get it. In all reality, the name makes sense– especially in relation to big brother product iPod. The brand consistency is there. The thing looks like a pad. But I don’t think I’m alone when I say that the word “pad” is already synonymous with being on the rag. It’s a parody waiting to happen.

I am in the process of branding a product line at work, and we’ve had to shoot down several suggestions that were undesirable for one reason or another. iPad would’ve never seen the light of day. Was there a focus group for this product? I’d assume so, but did that group include women?

All over Facebook, I’m seeing a pattern: ladies cringe or laugh at the unfortunate name, and it flies right over the heads of our male counterparts. Splendora, which caters to a female audience, called the name “hilarious.” I was immediately able to determine why. But a guy who read the same article I did commented, “why is “iPad” hilarious? I think “glaringly obvious” would have been a better description.”

So, the name is both smirk-inducing AND obvious. Jobs, go with iSlate. For the love of menstruating women everywhere.

An Ode to Football

I’ve been thinking about this post for a while, but I was too lazy to write it until now. For once in my life, I’m going to take a stab at being topical and write about something that I know little to nothing about: football.

I’m not shy about expressing my utter indifference towards sports. “I couldn’t care less” doesn’t cover it. In my heart of hearts, I truly don’t give a shit. I think it has to do with how I was raised. I wasn’t witness to my dad drinking warm beer and muttering under his breath at a game that had no impact on his life. I didn’t date jocks. I joined the track team once, for a letter jacket; but soon discovered you could get them custom-made and dropped the running thing all together.

However, I have yet to miss one Superbowl. Besides my love for wings and beer, there is something special about football. I’ve concluded that the X-factor is the far superior football movies that we’ve been blessed with over the past few decades.

Think about it. You can’t name one American sport that provides compelling cinematic material more consistently than football. Material that pulls the heart-strings. I got the inspiration for this post from reading this article [Woah. I read that shit in September and I'm just getting around to reacting to it? For shame]. I’m not going to summarize it (just read it yourself), but it’s a story worthy of being immortalized by Hollywood.

Other based-on-true-story football movies include:

• Remember the Titans
• Friday Night Lights
• All the Right Moves
• Rudy
• Paper Lion
• We Are Marshall
• Invincible

Besides those movies, we’ve got Any Given Sunday, The Replacements, Varsity Blues, Jerry Maguire, and… Waterboy. I tend to not enjoy any movie in which Adam Sandler talks all ‘tarded (I almost offed myself during Little Nicky). But I’ll add it on for shits and giggles.

The abundance of these films leads me to believe that football is simply better than other sports. And if that’s not the case, why don’t we hear the tear-inducing tales of baseball? Basketball? As someone whose knowledge of sports has been fashioned by Tom Cruise and Matthew McConaughey, I think I’d be first to know if such a film existed. Instead, we have Field of Dreams (weak), A League of Their Own (weaker), and Mr. 3000 (WEAKEST, RIP Bernie Mac, I’m sorry, but fucking WEAK). Angels in the Outfield… WTF. Bad News Bears. BASEketball, for christ’s sake. The best baseball movie I’ve ever seen was The Sandlot. A classic in anyone’s book… when you’re 10 or nostalgic.

And let’s talk about basketball. Well, we’ve got Love and Basketball. White Men Can’t Jump. The 6th Man. Juwanna Mann (LOL. That was good). We’ve got BASEketball again. And let’s not forget Space Jam! Coach Carter and He Got Game are the only two I can point out that attempt to not be totally lame. The Basketball Diaries, while also good, is more interesting because Leonardo DiCaprio is hot and a junkie.

The difference between these three sports is not that nothing heart wrenching ever happens unless you’re playing a game of football. The difference is that baseball and basketball movies are constructed as a. family friendly, b. ready-made filler for late night/early slots on Comedy Central, or c. an homage centering around a historical big shot (Michael Jordan, Babe Ruth, etc.). What do football movies focus on? Teamwork. Dedication. Family. Life altering injuries. Drugs. Asshole coaches and refs. And RACE! What the fuck else could you want out of a film?

This is why, along with the aforementioned wings and beers, I take one Sunday out of the year to reflect on football’s contributions to America, specifically Hollywood. Have a great holiday, y’all.

Stuff Black People Like: Christmas Edition

Okay, here’s the deal: I love my mom; but whenever this time of year rolls around, I can’t help but get especially frustrated when deciding what to get her for Christmas. You see, my mom is Black. I, for most intensive purposes, am regarded by society as a person of non-color. At least on the outside.

That’s why I was so grateful when a friend forwarded me this New York Times Gift Guide for “people of color.” Now I can buy the person who gave birth to me a gift that says, “You’re African-American, and I don’t know what that’s like. Here’s a gift that expresses that sentiment, even though I know you’d probably prefer jewelry or a gift certificate to NY & Company.”

The article covers stereotypical gift suggestions for people who are not White. Which is kind of odd. Why would a minority want a gift specially suited to their ethnicity? Like this year, during Secret Santa, if I get a White co-worker, I’ll just buy them an iPod or something. Because White people get regular gifts. If I get my Jamaican co-worker, though, maybe I’ll buy her the ’The Beauty of Color: The Ultimate Beauty Guide for Skin of Color’ by Iman.

I know that the NY Times is the authority on Black culture, and who am I to judge, but shouldn’t you buy someone a gift based on the persons’ interests? For example, if a so-called person of color bought me a tennis racket or a yoga mat for Christmas, I’d be a little peeved. That is exactly the type of gift you get when someone Googles ”White people christmas ideas.”  You might as well say, “Hi Steph, noticed you’re White, thought you might enjoy this set of exotic teas.” Why would I buy an Indian friend a henna kit? A Spanish friend a t-shirt that says “Wise Latina” on it? It’s embarrassing enough to purchase something like that, but then to give it to someone and expect them to be gracious for it? It’s like you’re wrapping up an identity in a box, putting a bow on it, and saying, “this is so you,” even if it isn’t.

I’m not saying that these specialized knickknacks shouldn’t exist at all, but shouldn’t each person be responsible for how actively they participate in their culture? Should someone else really decide that your kid needs a DVD called “Baby Jamz”? (Srsly, WTF. Get the damn kid a gift certificate to Build-A-Bear or a Barbie Doll). Should someone else say, “Your hair’s kinda nappy, so I got you this hair shit that famous Black people use.” Mind your damn business! If someone wants a product that connects them to their culture, they’ll buy it themselves. That shit is personal.

Mostly, I’m disappointed with the New York Times. They publish this fluff piece after months of musing about a potentially postracial America. Are we? Aren’t we? Let me make it easy for you: electing someone who isn’t 100% white IN NO WAY signifies a postracial society, ESPECIALLY when journalists use said elected official as an anecdote for a trend piece concerning which Christmas gifts got mad flava!

Anyway, I can only hope that there aren’t any sheltered suits who read this article and are considering purchasing tickets for the Radio One Love Gospel Cruise 2010 to bestow upon their African-American bosses.

The Lazy Man’s Guide To College

People will tell you that your years spent in college should be some of the best you’ll ever have. This is only true if your head is in the right place. Never forget what you’re there to do. You’re not there to write thesis papers, or to develop a minor Adderall dependency. You’re not there to gain 20 pounds in three months. You’re not there to have an excuse to text your roommate at 4 AM that you just narfed in someone’s hamper (okay,  this one is flexible). You’re there to learn the one skill that will forever impact your adult life– how to get satisfying results while exerting minimal to no effort.

Here are a couple of flawless ways to maximize your college experience:

1. Mind your schedule: Creating your schedule correctly is an art form and should take precedence over everything else. It’s essential to squeeze all of your classes into three or four week days. Most people automatically take Fridays off, which means you should, too. You want to align your free time with others so that you don’t miss out on activities planned for Thursdays.

Now, most of the holidays you’ll get off will fall on a Monday. This means if you are able to take another day off, it should be Tuesday. During a regular week, your Tuesday will create the illusion of a two-day school week, and during a Monday holiday week, you’ll be rewarded with a five-day weekend. Unless you become a teacher, you’ll never have this many days off again, so make the most of it by sleeping, partying, and hell– do some school work if it moves you.

The only exception to the Tuesday rule is if your school practices “Monday Schedules.” Be aware of whether or not you’re attending a Monday Schedule school. Because holidays often fall on Mondays, schools try to remedy Monday negligence by making you go to your Monday classes on a Tuesday. In this case, your secondary day off should be Monday. That way, you’ll get Tuesdays off after the Monday holiday, resulting in yet another five-day weekend.

2. Work on campus: Specifically, you should aim to work in either the Dean’s Office, the Registrar’s Office or the Financial Aid Office. Your schedule and your finances tend to be the only two things the administration can fuck up, so it’s important that you make friends in your respective office. This guarantees that you will never be one of those red-faced people sitting in the waiting room for two hours blubbering like Shamu because your scholarship is getting revoked.

3. Use your Mealcard with caution: Most Mealcards cover on and off-campus dining. Try to find an off-campus vendor who sells alcohol and cigarettes on the Mealcard. This will save the hard-earned cash from your campus job for things that can’t be bought with a Mealcard, like pot.

If you’re trying to avoid gaining 15 pounds of college fat, don’t eat on campus. The food is designed to force you into a cycle of bad eating patterns. Like Chinese food, you will become hungry again within a half hour. You’ll go back for more, because you’re not spending actual money. Before you know it, none of your clothes fit and you need a pair of scissors to remove your underwear from your body. Then you’re depressed, so you go back to the cafe and eat your feelings. Vicious cycle, it is.

Use your on-campus money to buy drinks and snacks in bulk. You can stash them in your dorm room and avoid the cafeteria until it’s time to re-up. Typically, you can use your on-campus money to purchase stuff from the bookstore, so save the money your parents give you to buy books for important things, like tipping bartenders (Dad, I never did this with your money).

4. Kiss Some Ass: College is the perfect time to get your start ass-kissing, because it’s acceptable to e-mail your professors. This way, you can be discreet while building a relationship with your professor that your classmates are not privy to. By the time you get a real job, you’ll be a seasoned pro at writing the ass-kissing e-mail (however, you should leave this skill off of your resume when the time comes).

Every month or so, send your professor a link to something you know they’re interested in. The link can be something related to class, but it works better if you send something your professor has a personal stake in. This will make your professor feel important. They will think you’re smarter than your peers, because you’re expressing that you have a shared interest with them. There is nothing that an academic likes more than some subtle ego-stroking. This works especially well on the pedantic sort.

Participate in class and in the case that you’re not doing so well, ask your professor for some input or help. College is a transitory state; and possibly the last time in your life that effort can be as commendable as actually doing well.

5. Get some internships: Your professors will tell you that you need to get an internship. What they don’t tell you is that you should have 3+ internships, because one internship is not impressive anymore. It’s like getting a Bachelor’s Degree.

Working for free sucks hard, so intern somewhere that has parties. A record label, magazine, or event planning company are good places to intern with. This way, your time isn’t completely wasted and you’ll probably get drunk for free on occasion. Also, you can count at least one of your internships as a class, but without all of the work.

6. Don’t worry about it: Internships don’t guarantee that you will have a job when you graduate, and neither does going to college. In fact, by the time you graduate, you’ll probably be sick of whatever it is you studied and go an entirely different route. Or you won’t be able to find a job. Or you’ll go to graduate school because you didn’t get any work done the first time around and are worthless. Just don’t worry about it. You won’t remember anything about The Great Schism or Socrates once you’ve been out of school for six months, because you’ll be too busy worrying about shit that actually matters. Or maybe you’ll just work a godless job, where you’ll sometimes update your blog from, and occasionally reminisce about a charming time of your life that you’ll never get back.

I’m still trying to figure out The Lazy Man’s Guide To Adulthood. I think it has to do with Vitamin C and trust funds.

This Week In People Who Suck, Part 1

Keith Bardwell, a honky Louisiana justice of the peace, refused an interracial couple a marriage license. Because he was worried about how society might treat the mulatto kids they plan to have. . Or perhaps, he’s just a racist douche. In his own words, he has “piles and piles of black friends,” which everyone knows is the sentence that bigots use in an attempt to counter the fact that they are, indeed, bigots.

Among other pearls of wisdom on a subject that he knows nothing about, Bardwell has said “I think those children suffer and I won’t help put them through it.” ALL children suffer. It’s part of being a fucking kid. Kids don’t get the Christmas presents they want, they don’t get invited to that killer roller rink birthday party, they get picked last for dodgeball because they suck. Kids with glasses suffer. Fat kids suffer. Maybe we shouldn’t allow dirty people, sloppy people, or fat people to get married either, because their kids might turn out to be losers.

Obviously, Bardwell knows this couple will be married by someone else, and that babies happen with or without marriage licenses, so his political statement in not marrying this couple (and 3 others in the past 2 years) only serves to scratch a racist itch. Reminds me of a power-tripping pharmacist refusing emergency contraceptives to someone because they think that this denial is somehow meaningful. Hi God, I didn’t realize you were a pharmacist, I guess I’ll just go drive another forty minutes to a different pharmacy, wasting both my gas and my time because you got in a fight with your wife this morning and feel like being a dick. Minor inconveniences in which normal people pay the price so that self-important douchers can continue to douche.

Mr. Bardwell, as a product of an interracial marriage, I’m doing just fine. Have been for a little over two decades. Thanks for the fucking concern.

Update: It seems Bardwell was actually a life-long democrat (cripes) up until fairly recently. Fall of 2008, in fact. When a certain mixed child became our Commander in Chief. You do the math.

Shitting Where You Eat: A Primer

Awhile back, I wrote a list of do’s and don’ts for men looking to date my roommate; guidelines to follow if you’re to become a peripheral fixture in my life and home. After some digging, it seems the masses are interested not in playing nice with others’ roommates; they’d like to know how to go about ”playing nice” with their own roommates: potential bootycalls knocks.

Often, “shitting where you eat” refers to a workplace hookup: an ill-advised soirée involving yourself and the company ink. However, I think this analogy is better suited in regards to the inter-apartment hookup. Afterall, where does the majority of your shitting and eating go down? For my own piece of mind, I’ll assume the bulk of it takes place at home.

So your roommate: you’re pretty hot for them. Living with them is like an added luxury; like a hot tub or a washer/dryer combo. She walks around in a revealing robe, never seems to have a period or blow up the bathroom, and lives down the hall. Or maybe he’s a dude; one that doesn’t bring a new girl home every night, wants to snuggle on the couch, and cleans up after he cooks. Plus he lives down the hall. Surely, this person is your most precious amenity, right?

Right. As a roommate. Not as your built-in sex slave. Consider the following questions before setting forth on the road to real estate ruin.

Do you like your apartment?: Let’s be real. What’s harder to find; an apartment you love, or a relationship that will likely have the shelf-life of milk? You can be on the brink of cancer-inducing, all-consuming, psychotic let’s-tattoo-each-other’s-names-on-our-ring-fingers love with your roommate, but the memory of that ill-formed union won’t make the sight of your meager belongings in the back of a $19.95 U-Haul any easier to swallow.

Do you pull the fade? Maybe you and your roommate sat down like adults and drafted a pre-emptive mandate in the style of the Geneva Convention, if you will, for the protection of other roommates involved. No one has to move out, you will be mature if your fling fizzles, you’ll still be friends, so on and so forth. Just look at you, taking initiative! So cultivated!

Except when you’re ready to end things you’re stumped, because you’re a fader. You know the like. Instead of verbally ending relationships, you tend to fade away; never to be seen or heard from again besides the occasional Facebook status update that proves that yes, you are alive; albeit disinterested in yesterdays’ hookup. And hey, we’re all guilty of it. No one is judging. Keep in mind though, that you can’t just fade away from someone who is in your living room rummaging through your shared DVD collection and eating your cereal every morning.

Are you in love, or just lazy? The dating scene can get old faster than you can say, “should we split the check?”, but that isn’t an excuse to risk your apartment and friendship for a convenient lay. Be honest with yourself and with the other person– do you like your roommate, or are you broke this week and can’t afford to go on a real date with a person that may or may not put out? The same way you would second guess sleeping with your best friend’s little sister, or your brother’s ex girlfriend, or your 2nd cousin, THINK about what you’re about to do and whether or not it’s worth it. Use your brain, and when you come to a conclusion, use your hand (who you’ve lived with forever and would never kick you out).

Are you seeing other people? Imagine that you’ve been dating someone for a while. It’s not an exclusive relationship, but you practice a Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy with one another. In other words: if you fuck somebody else, use protection and keep the self-c0ngratulatory parade confined to the streets of your cerebrum.

This type of relationship is non-existant when you’re banging your roommate. No stray bra is safe, no headboard bang will go unheard. When your bed isn’t slept in, process of elimination says you’re with an anonymous someone else; a someone else who lives off of a foreign subway stop and possesses the ability to do something your roommate is incapable of, by default: sleeping in an apartment that is not yours.  What used to be a walk of shame is now a walk of dread; as you head home to face the inevitably awkward morning after. We’ve all seen romantic comedies. Even the most bitter of souls, the most jaded of lovers, are prone to jealousy pangs when their built-in friend-with-benefits (or fuck buddy, if you want to be crass about it) moves on to greener pastures.

oh, her? that's just my roomie. no worries.

Do you need alone time? What kind of question is this? Alone time is crucial, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Telling someone you’re busy or that you don’t want to hang out is increasingly difficult when that person has access to your whereabouts 24-7. “Girls’ Night”, “Poker Night”, and “Visit From Mom” no longer equate to enjoying a quiet night alone. Avoiding the person you’re hooking up with now requires plans with a sympathetic friend, where you will hang at what you now refer to as your “safehouse.”

here's a novel idea; sleep in your own fucking bed

I’m sure that once in a while, in “I swear! It happened to my friend!” land, these roommate relationships can work out. I have a pretty simple test to gauge whether or not your relationship is legit and deserves a fair shot. All it takes is one of you moving out. If you’re not willing to be greatly inconvenienced, spend money, and make sacrifices; you’re just not ready to be in a relationship. Keep your pants zipped up and your head high, kid. You’re doing the right thing.

Yo.

So, a few weeks ago I was out with this guy (I wouldn’t call it a date, perhaps a drink-hang? Anyway, it was fun, and if he’s to be believed, he’s probably reading this right now. Sup? You know who you are. If you don’t, you’ll know in a tick. Promise).

Now, I’m not trying to toot my own horn, but I’ve received a lot of… support when it comes to this blog and similar endeavors (and I’m thankful for it). Some from strangers, mostly from people I know. As anyone who has ever done anything slightly creative will tell you, putting your “art” out there for consumption is like farting in front of your boyfriend for the very first time (not that I would know, I’m just guessing). And so when I received what we’ll call constructive criticism during this particular drink-hang, I first responded defensively and now, humbly.

The observation was made that this blog lacks focus. I responded by saying that it was not necessarily my intention to focus on any subject in particular, and that this blog is like writing practice, and blah. blah. blah. until I had convinced the two of us that yes, this bl0g lacks focus, and so do I.

A week or so later, I decided that pigeonholes be damned, the focal point of this blog is whatever I FEEL like writing about. That is what all of these posts have in common (if anything). They are things that interest ME, things that I think are worth examining. And that doesn’t bother me, and if it bothers anyone else, that doesn’t bother me, either. What do Jon Gosselin and a raunchy Burger King ad have in common? Not much, except that I devoted anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour writing about them. But this is my blog, and I’m not writing for a beat. I’m writing for myself and whoever else wants to get down.

However, I do recognize that most blogs I enjoy reading DO have a focus. And I don’t want my own blog to fall below the standards I hold my reading material to… but I’m also not willing to find a niche. I have enough trouble finding something I want to write about and then finding time to do so, and choosing one route would probably kill off every primal urge I have to write in the first place.

What I want to do is continue to write/say whatever the fuck I want, within a well-organized template. I want to take some time off from content and focus on… focus. Improving readability and what have you. I’ll probably continue to post occasionally until that happens. In the meantime, if you’re an HTML wiz with a kind soul (or just a friend of mine), hit me up.

In Honor of The City, Season 2

I wrote this piece before The City, Season 1 aired on MTV last year. Unfortunetly, a fellow blogger of mine had the same, unoriginal idea. The piece, once written as a “I hope the producers get this right,” was edited to be a “things the producer should do NEXT season as they clearly failed at living up to my high yet reasonable expectations.” In honor of  The City being picked up for another season, I’m reposting my (now timely) hopes and wishes for Season 2.

Ahh, The City. Another failed attempt at giving the rest of the world a sneak peak of what it’s like to live in The Big Apple. I admittedly don’t live on the fair isle of Manhattan, but I do work and play there enough to know that once again, we New Yorkers have been failed by the mass media.

The same way they snuck three seasons of The Real World into our boroughs, MTV pimped out our streets to camera crews; consequently cheapening the mystique that is New York. They’re pandering to the tweens of Middle America, selling the idea that ANYONE can just move here, date an Australian (presumably) indie rocker, and work alongside socialites who are only employed for the duration of a reality series.

I want to be fair and give the writers of The City a shot to make the show somewhat realistic. So, here are a couple of ways MTV (and Whitney Port) can redeem themselves in time for Season 2.

Let Whitney Ride the Subway: As low maintenance as I prefer to live, even I can go a bit taxi crazy at times. The vain, lazy part of me enjoys being chauffeured around every once in awhile. But New Yorkers take the subway, and if they don’t, they at least know how to do so, should the occasion arise. If Carrie Bradshaw did it (albeit, once), so can she.

Show Us A Real New York Apartment Hunt: This is an opportunity MTV should’ve snagged up from the beginning. Erin’s boyfriend visits for one weekend, and Whitney’s all, “oh, wow, Erin, I sooo don’t mean to be in the way. I’m out of your apartment like, two hours ago.”  

Faced with adversity, what does our blond-haired heroine do? She finds a place, in a safe neighborhood, with a good view, on the first shot. Be a real New Yorker with real estate woes, Whit! At the very least, devote more than a three-minute montage to apartment hunting. I want to see some shady brokers and leasing offices and the sacrifice of three months’ rent. Only then will I be satisfied.

Learn Your New York Men: Whitney, you were born and raised in Los Angeles! LA isn’t Nebraska. Get a clue, girl. You shouldn’t be exclusive with anyone who has an accent, a band, and a fedora. Add a narcissistic, inarticulate male-model bro to the mix, and you’re pretty much asking for a ‘girl’s night in’ routine featuring hard liquor and no sex to become a permanent fixture on your social calendar. The only guy who wasn’t man-whoring up and down the streets of Manhattan was Erin’s busted Canadian boyfriend, and that was because he was a. not from New York and b. busted. Every guy in New York is up to something, but steer clear of the apartmentless, jobless, touring, fedora-toting Australians and a dry eye you will have.

"ooh, looks like I forgots me wallet. I'll get the next one, promise"

 

Get Laid Off: Everyone’s doing it (although not so willingly). Nothing makes you more New York in 2009 than, well, not having a job. After all, being unemployed is the new being employed! Since Port is semi-bland and neither likable nor unlikable, I vote that Palermo loses her job with DVF. Or maybe “you’re going to London” is code for, “you’re fucking fired.” Oh, who am I kidding? I’m sure Olivia had a totally stellar resumé.

Do a Dive-Bar—During the Day: Not all the time, but at least once. Maybe after getting laid off. Sometimes we get thirsty before it’s time for happy hour. Or is that just me?

Befriend Someone Who Isn’t White: This may be some absurd rumor, but I heard there are actually Black and Hispanic people who sometimes work in fashion and sometimes go to brunch and sometimes go to Tenjune. Where are they? Maybe MTV got away with whitewashing The Hills, and maybe they thought that by featuring the four types of New Yorker (blond, socialite, US import, and model), they would somehow trick the rest of America into thinking that New York really is the playground of the over-privileged they’ve had wet dreams about. It’s not some Bible Belt Utopia or an episode of Hannah Montana. At least find a token gay friend.

Other things to consider during the taping of Season 2: More black outs, less crying. More homeless people, less Olivia. More cocaine, less wearing make-up to brunch. Sounds like the New York I know and love!

This Week In Morons

Remember when there were a bunch of schools who didn’t want their children subjected to henious President Obama talking about education? One district in particular, the Arlington Independent School District, decided that whatever lesson plans they had in store absolutely could not be postponed. Because who knows? Tomorrow, there may be some radical development in multiplication tables. Maybe it’ll be discovered that Abraham Lincoln actually didn’t wear a beard. These kids need to learn this shit RIGHT NOW.

But now, ha-ha. 28 5th graders were bused out for the day to go hear the former president speak (I use the word ”speak” loosely. Perhaps “say words that may or may not go together” would be more appropriate). George W, his lady friend Laura, and some of the Dallas Cowboys got shit to tell these kids, ya’ll.

Seriously? I know President Obama is not from Texas or white, but I have faith that Jon Favreaux surely could’ve come up with something of value for the Prez to say to school-aged children. Something like, “Don’t grow up to be like your parents,” or “You can be the president too, even if your dad wasn’t.” This is a terrible, horrible double standard that really shouldn’t be overlooked. You don’t want the kids to lose 20 minutes of class WATCHING A VIDEO OF THE POTUS FROM THEIR FUCKING SEATS, fine. Learning history is far superior than actively participating in it, that’s logical. But to turn around and send the kids for an entire day listening to people who went to college likely based on athletic ability or rich daddy ownership… if there are parents that think this was A-OK, well Arlington… all I can say is I wish Mexico would take you back.

Let’s put all of the fucked up reasons why this happened aside and think about who is talking to these kids. What the FUCK kind of knowledge can GWB drop on these kids? That 90% of all dollar bills are covered in cocaine residue? How to destroy a baseball team? How to destroy a country? Honestly. The man should have a black and white Parental Advisory warning tattooed on his forehead. I would be outraged if I found out my kid was listening to him; it’s like a parent finding out their seven-year-old son is reciting Wu-Tang lyrics, aggressively grabbing his nuts, and joining the Crips. I’d rather have John Wayne Gacy talk to my kid. At least the guy could paint.

This article came via my dad, and the comments go where I’m not willing to; mostly because there HAS to be African-Americans that play for the Cowboys… right? Then again, it’s possible they were asked to attend an important practice that absolutely could not be postponed, much like the lesson plans for the children of Arlington. We don’t want to corrupt the youth of America by subjecting them to people who don’t have anything intelligible to say.

“I’m telling you there’s an enemy that would like to attack America, Americans, again. There just is. That’s the reality of the world. And I wish him all the very best.” –George W. Bush, Washington, D.C., Jan. 12, 2009

Mack Chicks Online Without Being a Tool!

As a brazen cheerleader for dating website OkCupid, there’s a lot I can tell you about why your messages may or may not be attracting bees to your honey. It’s easy to throw the rules of conventional dating to the wind when you’re hiding behind a computer screen, but there’s one universal law you must remember when it comes to dating; both online and off– some people got it, and some people don’t.

OkCupid analyzed half a million first attempts at getting busy via their site. Their logarithm robotic dating magical tool considered keywords, match percentages, the user’s stats (i.e. height, religion, etc.) and even the contents of that fateful first message. I find that awkward, by the way. What if, somewhere down the line, you meet and fall in love with some OkCupid staff member who “knows you from somewhere,” and you two can’t figure it out, until halfway through your blossoming relationship when he wakes up in a cold sweat one night and shrieks, “YOU! You were the girl that used the wrong form of their/there/they’re in your first message to that guy that worked at Sotheby’s. I’m disgusted by you and your disregard for grammar. We’re done.” That seems extremely unfair. That’s like Googling someone before a date when you yourself have an extremely common name (or no accomplishments) and are impossible to look up. Some things are better left for when you’re married and already hate each other.

The results, for all of you who struggle to find love and sex (hint: Craig’s List. Much Easier) online, are below:

1. Stop typing like a fucking moron: Just as in real life, intelligence and faking intelligence go a long way. It doesn’t matter what school you went to, or what job you have– the use of “ur,” “ya,” “luv,” etc. is not acceptable. Type your first message as though your career is riding on it. Use spell check if you have to. E-mail it to your mom and have her proofread it, I don’t fucking care. Poor grammar doesn’t just say, “I’m dumb,” it also says that you’re lazy, you’ve got no one to impress, and essentially… that you’re a loser. There are enough losers to choose from offline. If you manage to come off as a loser online, don’t expect anyone to give you the time of day.

2. Physical compliments are creepy: Save words like sexy, beautiful, gorgeous, etc. for pillow talk, gun-jumper. Physical compliments are the simplest way to make someone feel extremely uncomfortable with very little effort. In a relationship formed offline, they’re acceptable; but when you’re attempting to talk to someone for the first time on a dating website and you’re dropping lines like, “Your eyes are so sexy ,” you come off as a blip on a neighborhood’s convicted sexual offender map. Lose that tongue face, too, while you’re at it. Words like awesome or  fascinating fend much better in the online dating arena (that doesn’t mean it’s okay to say, “Your tits are fascinating.” Never okay. Try talking about the person’s personality. If they don’t have one, keep it moving).

Drinking & Messaging: Another big NO.

3. Saying “hi”= Cheesy: Using Hi, Hello, and Hey as a greeting is boring. Informal greetings like “What’s up,” “How’s it going,” and even “Howdy” (gag) garner more responses. But the salutation that fares best? None at all. Just get to the point. Save the coy greeting for when you meet in person.

4. Play indoors: Wanna e-mail? Use the site’s messaging service. Feel like chatting? You can do that via OkCupid (and other dating sites) as well. Asking for someones personal account is a turn off, and giving up that information puts you at risk: you could be giving a certain anonymous someone way too much access to the minutiae of your life. Someone that may or may not go away when you decide you’re not interested anymore. GChat is for friends and colleagues, not friends and colleagues and an OkStalker.

Beware of swingers; their prey doesn't escape alive.

5. Mention something the person is interested in: No brainer. It shows interest and it gives you a window to show that the two of you have something in common besides a penchant for browsing through nameless potential mates. Even if you’re just pretending to be interested in the contents of their profile, it’s better than being like, “Hey. I work here, I like this, I’ve traveled here, I think it’s normal to send a perfect stranger a list of my accomplishments, hopes, and dreams, because I have nothing better to talk about than myself.” Thanks, dude. Let me know when you complete your autobiography so that I can not read it.

6. Be lame (for males only): I disagree with this one, but roboscience does not lie– chicks dig it when men are like “Ooh sorry, I’m so awkward. I apologize for intruding into your inbox. I just kinda thought you were fascinating.” As a smart woman once said (Ashley, my roommate): Men are either dicks or pussies (Sidenote: Why don’t they just fuck themselves then?!). Apparently, Alpha Males fare well in offline settings where cocky and aggressive men can be misconstrued as men who won’t hatefuck you and make you cry on Christmas; but it’s better to be a bit of an unobtrusive, indifferent pussy when you’re trying to score a chick online.

Sorry I'm so awkward! It's part of my charm! HEE-YUK

7. Don’t be religious. Seriously: While I’m sorta, kinda, anti-religion; #7 is not a thinly veiled attempt to widen my OkCupid dating pool. While mentioning any religion increases your rate of return, you’re likely to only receive responses from people of your religion. UNLESS, of course, you ignore or denounce religion openly. People who mention they’re atheist in their first message get the most responses. As OkCupid puts it, “…ideally you should just disbelieve the whole thing [religion]. It can help your love life, and, besides, if there really was a god, wouldn’t first messages always get a reply?”

Also, it helps if you’re hot.